Shouldn’t Your Life be About Doing Stuff?
Exactly how do you build a life around not doing something? But that’s all AA has to offer. That and competing for the Drunkalogue Prize In Fiction.
Time, folks, is our only finite resource. And when it runs out do you really want to say, “I spent 27 years, 3 months, 2 weeks, 13 hours, and 47 seconds not drinking!”
What happened to being engaged in life? Having significant relationships (something, by the way, AA expressly forbids)? Achieving your own unique potential? Developing insight, tolerance, appreciation of others, and a balanced life?
Ah, no. You need to stay away from “Normies”, hide out in meetings, avoid thinking, smother your abilities and interests, and conform to the cult.
Unless you’re a predator, of course, and then you get to prey on the endless supply of highly vulnerable victims that AA gladly supplies you with. I suppose that would qualify as “doing something.”
So let’s just set that “non-option” aside and get back to actually living.
What would it look like if you could build on your unique preferences, interests, abilities, and circumstances? What actually motivates you? What’s missing that you are choosing to self-medicate rather than achieve, relax, enjoy, and appreciate?
Looking at alcohol abuse for what it is, – “putting in time waiting to die,” is how one client phrased it – why not try living? What have you got to lose?
That’s a question I can answer. You may have to give up anxiety, loneliness, boredom, depression, isolation, and…..
And the price?
Some short term discomfort of the sort every ex-smoker expected, altered personal relationships – usually for the better, and rejecting the “security of familiar miseries.”
That last one is the biggie.
We’re all creatures of habit and too much of the time we will settle for the predictable, no matter how awful, rather than take a chance where the outcome is uncertain. We like our patterns and the assurances that repetition brings. And we like medicating today away and avoiding thinking about the future. Even the short term future.
But you, our clients, former clients, and potential clients, you want something more. If you didn’t you’d either be drinking, attending a meeting, or both.
As we frequently suggest, why not give living a chance? You can always go back to drinking if you decide you don’t like it.