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Non 12 Step News for July 14, 2019

“But it’s helped millions!!!!” I’ve been experimenting with a very modest Facebook ad for the “AA – Who It Helps, Who It Harms, Who It Kills & Why” book and the response have been predictable – 95% positive and 5% outrage. The outrage coming, of course, from people who haven’t read it and never will, boils down to the “but it’s helped millions…” wail. We have, of course, being hearing this since we opened our practice 15 years ago.

By |2019-07-15T10:39:09+00:00July 15th, 2019|Newsletters|0 Comments

Non 12 Step News for July 7, 2019

“But I’ll Never Have Any Fun Ever Again!” Whenever we are faced with making a needed change in our lives we usually argue ourselves out of making the change with a lot of irrational “beliefs.” One of the more common ones is that “fun” is associated solely with drinking. Of course if you have reduced your activities to: “camping is drinking in the tent;” “skiing is drinking in the lodge;” “fishing is drinking on the boat;” “book club is drinking with the girls;” and a vacation is “drinking at the casino,” then it’s hard to remember that, maybe, there was a time when you actually enjoyed camping, hiking, skiing, and other activities – not just using them as cover for your drinking.

By |2019-07-08T05:55:46+00:00July 8th, 2019|Newsletters|0 Comments

Non 12 Step News for June 30, 2019

Self-Medication as Protection and/or Passive Aggression First, let’s look at alcohol use as a forms of protection. If you find yourself in an intolerable marriage, relationship, family, or conditions, you may have discovered that alcohol surrounds you with a protective bubble that excludes the invasive individual(s). As an extreme example, when I lived in a mining camp on the Yukon there were familes who lived in cabins smaller than my office. In one case, there were 2 parents, 5 children and an uncle. One room. No plumbing or electricity. Wood stove. Outside it’s -40 degrees and there are only 4 hours of daylight. How else, but from a bottle, it one going to find any privacy?

By |2019-07-01T11:44:05+00:00July 1st, 2019|Newsletters|0 Comments

Non 12 Step News for June 23, 2019

Thank you! I appreciate your response to the release of “AA – Who It Helps, Who It Harms, Who It Kills and Why.” I write the next week’s Newsletter on Monday morning, usually, and in the time since you received yesterday’s, 34 copies have been ordered. No, it’s not headed to the NYT Best Seller List, nor will it be a word of mouth sensation to match “50 Shades” but that is still a gratifying amount of progress in replacing 12 Step mythology with real answers.

By |2019-06-26T03:12:00+00:00June 23rd, 2019|Newsletters|0 Comments

Non 12 Step News for June 9, 2019

It Always Takes Longer Than It Does… One of the lessons I keep having to relearn, even after seven decades, is that not everything happens on my schedule. That should be obvious, but somehow I still have to occasionally CBT my way through delays, missed connections, and – imagine this – other people’s priorities. That’s to say that I had a plan for this newsletter that didn’t play out the way it “should have.” After years of research, hundreds of clients, thousands of tests. And uncounted hours of consultation, I wrote a Guide titled “AA – Who It Helps, Who It Harms, Who It Kills & Why.” It’s at the printers. It’s at the e-book publishers. It’s priced out ($7.95 for e-book, $10.00 for print, including delivery).

By |2019-06-10T06:26:59+00:00June 10th, 2019|Newsletters|0 Comments

Non 12 Step News for June 2, 2019

Distance Delivery Update! It’s been 6 months since we began offering our services via Distance Delivery. Initially, we used Skype, then Doxy, and finally settled on Zoom with its superior audio and visual without any compromise in security. That settled, we moved on to testing out client satisfaction and found that everyone has been pleased not only with the initial sessions but also the improved, “face-to-face” follow-up sessions. We’re pleased to find, as we suspected, that Distance Delivery allows us to provide the same high quality and confidential services as before, but at a reduced cost that allows many of you access that you couldn’t manage before.

By |2019-06-03T09:59:22+00:00June 3rd, 2019|Newsletters|0 Comments

Non 12 Step News for May 26, 2019

Memorial Day You know you’re getting older when the first Memorial Day Parade you remember include 2 Civil War veterans. That was 1948 and I was 3 and I remember them riding on a hay wagon as it made its way through town. Those were different days, of course, and holidays have changed and now, frequently, having more to do with selling greeting cards, flowers, and the Indianapolis 500 than about remembering veterans, living and dead. I know, I know, “Get to the point, Ed, no matter how obscure.”

By |2019-05-27T09:52:23+00:00May 26th, 2019|Newsletters|0 Comments

Non 12 Step News for May 19, 2019

Maintaining Motivation. Regardless of what changes we are trying to make, be it our drinking habits, weight loss, saving for retirement, paying off debt, or anything else, the problem is usually maintaining motivation. That’s because we are usually ambivalent about actually changing and because change usually means trading immediate gratification for deferred rewards.

By |2019-05-21T06:53:58+00:00May 19th, 2019|Newsletters|0 Comments

Non 12 Step News for May 12, 2019

Happy Mothers’ Day? I always wonder about the glorification of Motherhood. Is that a trap for women? Is it a protection? Is it a condemnation of women who choose not to be mothers? Is it an assertion that being a mother is “enough” and a rebuke of those women who think and act otherwise? Is it a justification for men who prefer to avoid the responsibilities of parenthood? Then there are those whose mothers were psychopaths or molesters, whose destruction transcended generations. How are we supposed to feel about glorifying them?

By |2019-05-13T05:54:49+00:00May 13th, 2019|Newsletters|0 Comments

Non 12 Step News for May 5, 2019

Time is Your Only Finite Resource As those of you who are long-time readers will remember, I have occasionally referred to a former client who had noted that he came to see us when he realized his drinking was just “putting in time waiting to die.” He and I are about the same age, and I always remember his assessment when my birthday rolls around, which happens to be tomorrow.


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