Proposal A woman I have worked with off and on recently asked me for a proposal for continuing work to address other aspects of her life – specifically enhancing her life now that she’s in her 50’s. I also realized Labor Day weekend was roling around again, beginning the annual I’ll fix “it” after [...]
Currently I have two very messed up knees, both as a result of accidents, one 9 years ago and the other 3 months ago. Currently I am doing Physical Therapy as suggested by my insurance company, plus my own regimen as developed over the past years of coping and experimenting. The point here is [...]
Evaluating Help When You Decide it’s Time to Get Serious For many of us, the time rolls around when we decide it’s time to enlist some help in changing a habit, a situation, a career, a marriage, or some other significant part of our life. Then comes the search for who. One might think [...]
As Summer Approaches Post-Covid, I imagine many of us will be getting out-and-about once again. I thought I would offer a few short pieces, some from clients, some not, that you might find entertaining and/or enlightening. This first is an example of a tiny example of assertiveness applied. Jane and her husband had fallen [...]
Planning Your Escape Regardless of what habit you decide to escape - whether self-medication, AA, abusive relationships and/or any condition or cult that is negatively affecting your life – the process is much the same. First, obviously, is acknowledging that it is time to make a change, or changes, and defining what you want [...]
“Contemplation Hell,” the “Security of Familiar Miseries” the “Pretend Trap” & Other Procrastinations One of my favorite descriptive terms for that state most of us spend too much time in is “Contemplation Hell.” That’s the purgatory we self-inflict on most of the decisions we are unwilling to convert into action. This state is reinforced [...]
Outpatient vs Residential Callers, as well as clients, find themselves being accused of “taking the easy way out” if they work with me instead of going off to “rehab” which, “everyone knows,” is the only thing that “works.” A lot of “…” in that sentence. And for good reason. But… First, I am not the [...]
The Fear of Leaving AA and its Pseudo-Relationships I frequently hear from people who want to leave AA but who have been so brainwashed by AA mythology they are afraid to take the chance that they will end up “in jail, a mental hospital or dead.” That’s a reasonable fear if it were true, [...]
Happy 2022! Time for an update for anyone who is interested. After a few months of Newsletter silence, work reconfiguration, geographic relocation and considerable pondering, I have the following to report: I will be continuing to provide services to a select few clients; “Select” means, mostly, over 50 years of age, motivated and capable [...]
Back From a Working Vacation Three weeks ago, I wrote that I was suspending the Newsletter for a couple of weeks while I took a break and went visiting back east. I did and the results were a little surprising. First, it’s always disconcerting to visit the part of western Pennsylvania where I grew [...]