“I have been thinking about this for a while and it reminded me that I once heard that every drama has a villain, a victim, and a vindicator. In this drama the villain is alcohol and the personal choice is to be either the victim or vindicator.
In my case, I chose not to be a victim so your accountability-based program had natural appeal. Alcohol is an incredibly efficient way to decompress in a hurry but has all the negatives that go with it. Through your program, I learned to just let go of the vast majority of things that bothered me and to try to constructively deal with the rest.
I have not achieved perfection and probably never well but this is the most balanced my life has felt in 30 years. You and Mary Ellen have changed my life. An hour ago I was contemplating an interaction that I need to have with my wife this week that would not have been possible before I met both of you.
All the best.”
– C. C.
“Just thought I’d drop you a note,
It’s been a while, but L and I are doing great, I’ve been sober ever since we saw you guys in March of 2011, and loving it, I’ve started doing other things that I haven’t done in years and the drinking has become a non issue in our lives.
L is doing well as she has been busy looking after the yard and dogs, as I have been laid up since April from an bit of an accident and a little shoulder surgery I had last month.
We are looking forward to spending the winter away again this year; we have found a great place in Desert Hot Springs and will be heading there in December. If we get over near you guys we will stop over for a visit.
Thanks again for the help, I never thought it would be that easy. ”
– R & L, Alberta, Canada
“Sometimes One Just Can’t Do It Alone”
“As a self driven individual, all my life I have been able to get things done on my own initiative, never really needing the guidance or support of others.
– I quit smoking one day and started running the next day in the mid 70s
– I have worked-out almost everyday for the last 37 years
– I left other bad habits from the 70’s behind midway into the 80’s
– I started my successful consulting business in the early 90’s
Drinking had always been a part of my life – socially and in business, to celebrate, or simply to party, and at times would get a bit out of control; and when this happened, I was able to slow down or even quit for periods of time.
I did attempt AA a few times but could not identify or relate with the others attendees and the whole 12 step process of their meetings. Once I tried one of those “retreats”, but upon arrival when they treated me like an addict, I decided that was not for me and left within less than 6 hours.
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But as of a few years ago, the drinking began to progress and escalate, and to such a point that a few months ago I realized it was out of control.
When researching alternatives on the web I found the Non 12 Step program of Dr. Ed Wilson & Dr. Mary Ellen Barnes along with two other programs – a local 5 – 6 week outpatient program and another at an expensive 30 day inpatient retreat.
I called them all up to find out more and after speaking with Dr. Wilson on a Saturday, decided on Sunday to make the trip out to visit them the next day (Monday) after Dr. Wilson & Dr. Barnes were flexible enough to accommodated their schedule to meet mine even though it meant breaking up the 5-day session into two periods – first 3 days one week followed by 2 days the following week.
Not only was I grateful for their understanding of my need for urgency, but the fact that I could stay at a hotel, have free time and basically live a normal “Traveling” life, was very appealing and ultimately most rewarding.
The daily 3 hour sessions seemed to go by very quickly and were actually enjoyable; and the “homework” every night kept me focused. But what in my opinion made their program most successful for me, was their ability to make me step out of my shoes and look at myself objectively – at my life and of course at my drinking.
It made me realize that I was drinking so much because there was something else going on that was very wrong….and the drinking had become a severe symptom of that other malady.
And I believe that their ability to do this stems from their professional backgrounds, the fact that they developed their program based on years of experience with patients (including relatives or others close to them), their sincere desire to help, and also because they are real people who can identify what kind of person the patient really is.
Today I am again focused, re-energized, my drinking is under control and I have the same positive outlook on life as I always used to have.
Many thanks Ed and Mary Ellen for helping me get my life back on track.”
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“I feel like my old self again. All your help, counseling and follow-up has been very helpful for me, especially all your phone support. Any woman with an alcohol problem should skip the other programs and come straight to you!” – Annie W. Minneapolis, MN
“Thanks to you, I quit drinking. You helped me make my life better. The comprehensive aftercare support was extremely helpful to me. I highly recommend this program. In fact, I told my brother he should do your program!” – M. J. Manhattan Beach, CA
“What A Difference A Week Makes! “Bottom line – I am staying sober! We sorted out my problems and started solving them. The weekly follow-up was great and I am staying on track. This program is the best thing to happen to me in years.” – Kevin L., Edmonton, Alberta, Canada
“Non 12-Step Freed Me To Get On With My Life. I can’t believe how much better I feel. I feel like I am back in control and my depression is lifting. Your 5-Day Accelerated Program is great! Thank you.” Josie R., Santa Fe, NM
“I Have My Life Back After All These Years. Nobody could believe how much better I was after just a week. The Accelerated Program really is amazing – all that one-on-one support and counseling. If you have an alcoholism problem, you should try this, it is way better than 12 step meetings.I loved it! ” – Marci M., Flagstaff, AZ
“AA never worked for me. Never.
All that talk about alcohol at 8:00 p.m. only made me want to drink.
However, here’s what is working for me: working out.
I don’t mean the one-mile walk around the neighborhood each day; I’m referring to joining a gym, learning to use all the various machines and what muscles they strengthen–then using them.
Not only has working out starting making me feel better, but my clothes are starting to slip on easier (I’m overweight); also, I am meeting active people my own age (60s) who are working out, and seeing the excellent shape they’re in has been a true motivation–and I’m making new friends.
Moreover, I’m starting to get a little obsessed with it, spending much time researching workout routines, etc. on the Internet–instead of sitting around, bored and lonely, drinking until I pass out.
With the workout routine, I am eating 6 small meals per day–not only am I never hungry, but neither do I have the strong cravings for alcohol.
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My life has started taking shape–in more ways than one, and I wanted to share what is working for me; maybe it will work for others.
Blessings to Dr. Mary Ellen and Dr. Ed — their confidence in people like me and others like me has truly helped me move up, move out, and move ahead.
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“What a fabulous service you provide. The Naltrexone helped a lot and so did all your counseling and life-planning. Wine is no longer a problem for me. Thank you!” – Claire G. Portland, OR
“An Inspiring Week, A Revolutionary Approach
Imagine yourself at a center for dealing with alcohol abuse. And imagine–really imagine it if you can– that the week is wonderfully inspiring.
Imagine that the week is filled with laughter, joy and lots of humor. Imagine feeling pampered, perhaps as if you where at a California health spa or golf course. And imagine that you tackle some very good “hard work” with the active engagement of tremendously dedicated and experienced coaches–but that ninety-five percent of the week is NOT on the topic of alcohol, alcoholism, or alcohol abuse!
On top of all that imagine that a confident pathway is designed, creating a life filled with health-generating practices and pleasures that make excessive drinking irrelevant and simply not needed.
Nicole and I have just finished a wonderful week with Dr. Ed Wilson and Dr. Mary Ellen Barnes–and it was a total surprise.
On the surface there wasn’t anything surprising. For example, there was the everyday schedule of meetings all morning and then afternoons free for whatever we wanted (we went to a world class golf course, coastal walks and a health spa). But deep down the whole experience was completely different from that of a treatment center, or a program in the AA tradition.
Not once was I treated as if I had a life-long disease. Not once was I “diagnosed” for my failures. Not once was there the instillation of fear and threat or the mantra (one that our society teaches) that “this is a life-long problem” or something that you will have to always keep at bay. Instead there was a radically different approach.
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What was it?
Well it was a combination of things. Yes, there was hard and honest reflection. It was a luxury really, a week where two amazing coaches devoted intense focus on my total life space and context. It was a week where we identified visions of health, assets and strengths, and looked at life as a whole. It was a week where Nicole and I were helped, not alone but together, to forge a shared vision of an exciting, healthy future.
It was a precious week where Nicole and I deepened our 30 year friendship, marriage, and our love. And it was a week where I came away with real hope and a new calm.
It’s hard to explain but it’s true. Nicole and I “high-fived” it after our final session. We were proud of our work. And we left with a feeling of gratitude. It may have been luck that we stumbled upon this revolutionary approach. But I don’t think so.”
– Carl & Nicole,
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