Who Are Our Clients?
We rarely take clients who are under 40 for various reasons we consider pertinent:
- We’re over 60 and the socio-cultural gap can be a problem;
- Most potential clients under 40 are too immature to benefit from our sophisticated approach;
- Most adults under 40 are insufficiently motivated;
- We like working with the clients who are most apt to benefit from our research based approach which most younger people aren’t ready for.
Note the word “most” because we do occasionally take on exceptional clients who are in their 30s. And yes, we can and do assess that carefully, with a 30 year history of doing those assessments on over 6,000 adults.
Having disposed of who we don’t accept as clients, we can move along to who do:
- Adults whose primary medication of choice is alcohol;
- Individuals who are smart, sensitive, and who have succeeded in some areas of life and overcome other obstacles on their own;
- People who accept responsibility for their choices and actions and would like to discover some new options;
- Women and men who need permission to be happy;
- Clients who need short term support in adjusting to changed circumstances while they create a new “normal” that does not include abusing alcohol.
You may find it helpful in making your own decisions if we expand on each of these just a bit.
People who abuse alcohol are different from those who abuse hard and illegal drugs, or are “addicted” to porn, gambling, the internet, or shopping, etc., AA and NA to the contrary. Besides, why would you go to a “program” that pretends they can address every condition on earth with the same “Facilitated 12 Step” menu that neither addresses nor helps anyone? Never mind the confidentiality issues.
Your personal situation is unique to you, as is your solution, and sitting around in groups isn’t going to do anything for you except to depress, annoy, and expose you to all sorts of exploitation.
Item two: you need to be smart, sensitive and used to dealing with problems on your own because otherwise you won’t have the maturity and background necessary to the creation of a new personal normal with which to enjoy the coming years.
Interestingly, if you didn’t have those traits you wouldn’t be reading this. This newsletter, like the material on our website, is written to both screen in people who are appropriate to work with us, and screen out those who aren’t before a phone call is ever made. Congratulations!
A lot of our work revolves around how to be happy which those who abuse alcohol clearly aren’t (or if they are, aren’t reading this). Frequently when it comes to being reasonably happy, we are our own worst enemies. True for me as well as you. Let’s figure out how you can get out of your own way?
Giving up and/or modifying your drinking will have a number of stumbling blocks. It helps to be forewarned, to plan ahead, to learn from situations and circumstances, and to have support available that does not compromise you. That’s part of what our 12 weeks of regular, scheduled follow-up, and other availability, provides that no one else offers. Ever!
So, do you fit? Almost undoubtedly. And it only requires a phone conversation to confirm it – both for you and for us.