Your Self-Image Can Make it Hard to Quit Drinking
Our clients tend to fall into one of two categories – those who are experiencing discomfort because their drinking is at odds with their self-image and those who drink too much because drinking supports their self-image. It is easier if you fall into the former category rather than the latter. Why? Because ‘heavy drinker’ is not how you see yourself. You are using alcohol to cope with something and not feeling good about it because being drunk or absent is not how you like to think of yourself. If on the other hand, you think of yourself as the life of the party, or a fabulous host or see drinking as sexy, glamorous and sophisticated, all positive attributes associated with drinking too much, you will find it harder to quit. Changing a behavior is hard enough when it is one that we don’t see as totally positive, but it is even harder when we do see it as positive. Of course, this is simplifying it a great deal, but these are among the issues many drinkers face when it comes time to quit.
If you see yourself in the description of the sexy, sophisticated drinker, you might start questioning the validity of that image in order to start a mind-shift that will make it easier for you to quit drinking. Is it really sexy to stumble around, slurring your words? Or fall and break your front teeth? Or vomit in the gutter on your way home after a party? Of course not. But you are not looking at the whole picture or the entire evening of drinking, you are keying in on the wonderful, sexy, sophisticated first moment when you pick up that pretty crystal goblet and take the first sip. Our minds trick us that way. The advertising worked its magic. But you have the capacity to be stronger than the advertisers. Give it a try. And if you need some help with that reality check, we are here to help you. Give us a call.