We have a question we’d really appreciate you helping us answer (and no one else can).
We’ve been sending out this Newsletter for almost 2 years now and we have a lot of regular readers (and a few irregular ones too). Some of you are former clients, others are professionals in the field, and some of you are concerned family members.
But our question goes to those of you who make up the majority of our readers, those of you with alcohol problems of your own that you’d like to put behind you, but just can’t seem to get up the motivation, or overcome the fear, or take the risk, or decide it’s finally time.
That’s the question. What can we do to reassure you that ending your alcohol abuse isn’t all that awful?
That, in fact, doing so will both improve and extend your life?
In order to help us answer that question, would you please e-mail us and let us know what your reason(s) for delaying are?
You can reach us confidentially at: mailto: MaryEllenandEd@non12step.com
We’d really like to know what’s holding you back so we can see how to address whatever concerns are keeping you stuck.
And, really, whatever is keeping you from getting the help you need is also preventing others from getting what they need.
So, PLEASE, help them, help us, and help yourself, too!
And if you’d rather call, well, that’s fine too!
Sabotage Versus Support
We all face the problem of sabotage whenever we make changes in our day-to-day lives. Spouses and other family members resist even those changes they insist they want, even the end of your alcohol abuse.
Simply put, we all prefer predictability to the unknown – even when it’s the “security of familiar miseries”.
Conventional attitudes towards alcohol abuse and treatment make this tendency even worse.
By pretending that “alcoholism” is a disease that can be arrested in isolation without the “cure” affecting anyone but the drinker.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
Just as alcohol abuse affects everyone associated with your drinking, so does leaving the drinking behind. If your spouse and other family members are uncomfortable with your drinking, so too will they, initially, be uncomfortable with you stopping.
Even good changes cause stress!
Yes, there will be some resistance to your new sober self and the ways in which this affects the dynamics of your marriage and family. That’s why we prefer to work with couples.
And why working with spouses is far more effective than excluding them.
Want more information on why and how this works? Give us a call and we’ll be happy to discuss details.
The Book Project
Another reader has written about Ms. Glaser’s “Women and Alcohol” book project for Simon & Schuster.
“Hello–I’ve been getting your newsletter for a while and have also corresponded with you briefly. I originally wrote you to help someone else understand the non-12-step approach, but I’ve ended up needing to delve more deeply into that point of view…
“This week I contacted Ms. Glaser about her book project, and I have to say that one conversation is probably going to change my life.
“Her perceptiveness and passion for this subject shone through in every word of that conversation.
“I can’t thank you enough for recommending that women contact her. This is going to be an important book.”
If you too would like to help, please, contact Ms. Glaser, confidentially, at: email@example.com.
Client Program Review:
The May 30th Newsletter contained a former client’s detailed review of our work with her. Click HERE to read it.
Odds and Ends:
Our Comparison Shopping issue is available here;
Read an expanded description of our Five Day Full Recovery Program;
And old Newsletters are archived on our website under, you guessed it, Newsletters!