“Three trips through ‘rehab’ only got me a label and an excuse – with your help I finally got a life!”
We couldn’t have come up with a better definition of the difference between “us” and “them” if we’d spent a month trying.
Now the only question for you is, do you too want a life, or do you want a label that’ll let you keep on drinking?
Do you want to pretend you are “powerless over the disease of alcoholism” or accept the reality that alcohol abuse is a choice you made (because it works – in the short run) that you can change anytime you want to?
Do you want to placate someone else or create a far better life for yourself as well as with them?
Do you want to continue to be a spectator to life or to live a life?
Do you want to medicate loneliness, boredom, and anxiety or learn to relieve them?
Do you want to continue adolescent avoidance and isolation or do you want to be an independent adult?
We could keep going – but if you really do want to skip the labels, excuses, trinkets, slogans, and nonsense and build a real life, then it’s time to give us a call before you lose any more days, weeks, months, and years.
Really – it’s time!
When it comes to alcohol abuse – or drugs, narcotics, or even obesity – we’ve all been brainwashed into thinking a “support group” is a group of people with a similar problem. AA, NA, CA, ACOA, OEA… the list of ineffectual and even counter-productive groups is nearly endless.
So what constitiutes a real support group?
Many of our clients are surprised to learn that a real support comes from becoming involved in activities that have nothing to do with their problem behavior.
Because if you want to change a behavior, drinking for example, then doing so means replacing that behavior with a more rewarding behavior – preferable one that is totally incompatable with abusing alcohol.
An example, please?
Mary Ellen and I hit the gym at 6:00 a.m. every Monday, Wednesday and Friday. We spend an hour or more lifting weights which is an excellent way to relieve anxiety, depression, boredom, and loneliness, while also preventing muscle loss and osteoporosis. Even modest alcohol consumption the day before would interfer with us doing our best and since we are a bit competative…
But I thought….
We know what you’ve been told is the “only way”, but remember, most people who join traditional “support” groups actually increase their problem behaviors. Most drinkers binge rates go up by a factor of 4 after joining AA, for example.
So! If you want real support, add activities you like, whether it’s the gym, the Audobon Society, the Bridge Club, League of Women Voters, or any other activity based organization whose members don’t care about your history.
Unless of course you want to stay drunk or obese, or drugged up – then go ahead and join the traditional groups, all designed to provide you with excuses to stay stuck in self-destructive behaviors with all of the other people who don’t want to get a real life.
Not you? We didn’t think so given you’re reading this. So give us a call and let’s talk about real change and leaving the past where it belongs, in the past.