Last week we asked for suggestions and many of you responded. One question concerned ways in which what we do won't change and those are listed below. The other most common question was about how we can be more accessible to those of you who can't, or don't want, to travel and I've answered that in the second section. More questions?
This will be an exceedingly short Newsletter. As we begin our own transition time, we are going to ask your assistance. By way of illustration, when clients’ spouses, partners, friends, family, employers, and other ask how to be supportive, we always answer, “Ask! And whatever they say, believe them!”
This Newsletter Feels Different. Which is perfectly natural since it is the first one I have written which is “post-closing” up this office and starting the changes to begin in January. Given that, I will start with a few more of the notes many of you have written. “My time with you on Friday was helpful to me as I work at focusing, planning and verifying my thought processes. I feel better equipped to make the hugely important decisions coming down the pike for me because of our conversation.
We Thank You For Your Response! We appreciate all of the emails, comments and calls. One result is that all of the available weeks before we go on our end of the year reorganization have been filled except October 29 - November 2. So if you are still considering, that's where things stand. What’s Your Normal? We hear a lot of questions about what’s “normal.” Whether it’s “normal drinking,” “normal sex,” normal habits, behaviors, family relationships, marital divisions of responsibilities, all the way down to what’s the “normal way to load the dish washer,” or “fold the laundry.”
And Once Again a Former Client Saves Me! Here it is, Monday morning, and time to sit down and write another Newsletter. As been happening a lot lately, one of you has again saved me from mulling over about what to write by sending this: “Ed, I hope you are doing well. It has been over a year since we worked together but I read your e-mail every Sunday before I read the paper. You should pair your exit with any one of my favorite rock bands that are on their 3rd or 4th farewell tour. That will keep you around for a while.
For Those of You Still in Contemplation Hell… At almost any point in our lives we are faced with decisions we don’t want to make. As adolescents it may have been about breaking up with a boy or girl friend. Then there were school choices, marriages, children, divorces, career changes, and any number of other changes we ruminated over until the choice was made for us or the opportunity to choose disappeared. Of course not deciding is also a choice, though a passive, disempowering, and unmotivated one.
And Things Here Continue To Shake Out… It’s interesting how things unfold once you start the ball rolling, or the dominos tumbling or whatever Rube Goldberg metaphor you prefer. A number of you have signed up for slots, though a couple of openings remain, and we are glad that several of you are able to take advantage of work before we go into remodeling mode.
As We Wrap Things Up At This Office… Several of you, either in e-mails or calls, have expressed concern over the follow-up sessions and what happens when we close up shop at the end of October. Basically, nothing. We will continue to provide the 12 weeks of follow-up for as long as that takes and former clients will also have access to me in the coming years.
Okay, I Hear You! Having read the “oh, no’s” many of you expressed, I will not suspend the Newsletters while I am reorganizing the practice in November and December. So relax, your Sunday morning “fix” will not be withdrawn. With closing the office, and with Mary Ellen’s partial shift to other interests as well as my own reassessment of what to do now, we am open to suggestions as to ways we can continue to help that differ, at least in delivery, from the model we developed and implemented 15 years ago.
Responses to our closing the office at the end of October continue to come in. Many of these emails are from former clients and can be summarized by the following example: “Wow! Was I lucky or what? Thank you so much. I’m very happy you both have good things to look forward to. May you always be blessed." - K. S. Others have expressed concern as to whether or not the Newsletters will continue as they appreciate the truly anonymous support.